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Posted by: blonde914 May 12 2004, 10:07 PM

My daughter Terryn turned 18 today, Yipee!! She has been a handful, she has always been stubborn, idealistic, outspoken, argumentative, passionate, and generally JUST like me. We have butted heads from the moment she was born. She works a full-time job at a bank, she will graduate in June, and she moved in with her boyfriend of 3 years.

We fought for years about college, and getting tied down to one guy (we do love him though). She told us she didn't want college, she didn't want different guys(again just like her Mom). She is going to a local college in the fall only because the president of the bank told her it was a good idea, not because we assumed she would go since kindergarten.

I want so much for her and all my kids, just go out and live alittle, travel, get an education, save your money, buy a nice PORSCHE 914. Then settle down and do the other stuff.

I would love her to do all the things I didn't do, have all the things we have stuggled to get. But the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, she is going to do just what she wants no matter what.

I AM SO PROUD OF HER!!!

She is a go getter, no matter what she does in life she will succeed.

This is my first child to leave home, I have a 20 year old son and a 22 year old nephew still at home in college. I also have a 15 yr. old son and a 8 yr. old daughter at home. I am feeling very sad and old, I never thought I would feel sad when they were ready to go. This one has been planning to move out for 2 years. I thought I would be relieved, but I'm not.

I AM GOING TO MISS MY DAUGHTER.

No I am not crying.

Wonder how you will feel when yours leave home?

Sherry

Wait, my husband in his infinite wisdom just brought up a good point, I won't miss the dirty laundry on the floor, her bathroon and bedroom always trashed, the late nights waiting up, the sticky stuff she sprays and gets on all the mirrors in the house, the dishes that don't make it in the dishwasher, towels left on the floor, arguments with her brothers or sister, the extra car in the driveway, ect. ect...

YES I WILL!!!

Posted by: morphenspectra May 12 2004, 10:18 PM

I told my husband that when the boys (only 4 and 5) leave home it'll be time to have another one, He is completely against this, he says he wont have any more and he's happy to have them both out of diapers, so I'll just have to settle with an easy retirement with grandkids.

Hiedi

Posted by: CaliWRX May 12 2004, 10:21 PM

My twin brother and I left for college about a year ago and my little sis is leaving this year.

I have a little brother who is about to start high school next year. I am sure he will be getting a lot of attention for a few years being the only child left at home.

Posted by: SirAndy May 12 2004, 10:25 PM

my daughter is going to turn 15 later this year.

i can't wait for her to move out since she lives with her mother back in germany and as soon as she moves out, i can see her more often!

they grow up sooooo fast
Andy

Posted by: campbellcj May 12 2004, 10:56 PM

Don't worry...if she's anything like my siblings/cousins/etc, she'll be loitering around your house and hitting you up for $$$ until she's about 35 or so

We're still at the beginning of the long road -- Logan is just starting pre-school this summer.

Posted by: MattR May 12 2004, 11:43 PM

Sound like a relief for your parents

Posted by: Andyrew May 12 2004, 11:50 PM

I dont have any offspring.. and I doubt I will move out of the house till after collage or later.


There stuck with me.

haha

Posted by: ChrisReale May 13 2004, 12:05 AM

Sorry, couldn't resist

Posted by: GWN7 May 13 2004, 12:29 AM

Mine told me he's never moving out. He told me I can move, but he's staying.

Even the ex step-son spends more time here than at his mom's.

Posted by: Bruce Allert May 13 2004, 12:43 AM

All my kids are here to stay.. the 2 horses, 3 dogs, 5 cats & the wife.... OH! & Punkin Punkin will never leave

........b

Posted by: rick 918-S May 13 2004, 12:47 AM

My wife and I hooked up and moved in together after about 3 dates. We were both 18 then. We bought our first house about a year later. It was tough to get a loan back then without being married. We lived together for about 6 years before we tied the knot. Our first son was born ten years after we met. We have two boys. 17 and 15. I'm very much looking forward to them moving out. But I don't think I could stand it for long. I loved our time before kids. Now we always have a house full of kids here. Our two and their friends. We have guests several nights a week. We require them to be in by 11:30 during school and 12:30 on the weekends. (friends included.) Our grocery bill is outragious! But I like when I know where the boys and their friends are . I like to know they eat, and feel safe. Their good kids.

BTW our 23rd is in July

Posted by: wheelo May 13 2004, 02:00 AM

Sherry,
To answer your question... I will feel the same as you! Sad to lose the little girl I raised for all those years...But, Proud of the youg lady she has become!xI too have a long road ahead, as my youngest is 8, although my stepson graduates next year from HS.My hat is off to you...hang in there. I remember my Mom stopping-by with a bag of groceries, soon after I first moved-out,(also at 18) , that meant- a -lot...

Posted by: Jeroen May 13 2004, 04:19 AM

Don't worry about it. Things will only get better!

I never got along with my dad much. Not because we hated each other but because we are too much alike in too many things.
We couldn't even build a birdhouse together without getting into a huge fight
That changed a lot since I moved out of the house.

I remember that he offered to help out at our new place when we just bought it.
(I was 19 and my girlfriend - now wife - was 16)
I was thinking "oh great, here we go again" but we had a great time. I think it was one of the first times we didn't argue about a thing!
Things only got better since then...

cheers,

Jeroen

Posted by: dflesburg May 13 2004, 05:57 AM

Jeez,

I can't imagine what your going through. My oldest is going into 6th grade (middle school) this fall.

We had parent orientation this week and it was all I could do to keep from crying.

Dad just isn't ready for his daughter to grow up.

Posted by: drew365 May 13 2004, 08:39 AM

My daughter is 19. She is in her 3rd year of college. Even though we only live 5 miles from campus, she spent two years at the dorms. I thought is was ridiculous, but after getting used to the strange sensation of silence around the house I encouraged her to stay in the dorms the second year. Now she's back home, she and my wife don't fight quite as much as they did during high school so that's a good thing. In the fall we probably will look for an apartment for her near campus. Everyone needs their own life. Just remember, no matter how hard you try your kids are going to turn out just like you.

Posted by: Howard May 13 2004, 08:58 AM

Andy, that's priceless!

My kids, son 36 and daughter 31 have lived all over the country, but as of June 1 they will both be close to home. They bring 2 busted careers, 1 busted marriage, but I sure am glad to have them back.

Have had to help them financially and otherwise, but we have this big table in the back yard, and I sure like to see it filled with family on the weekends.


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Posted by: Don Wohlfarth May 13 2004, 09:33 AM

Nice post Sherry.
Even though there's no side to be taken I agree with your husband. You mostly tolerated the late nights, dirty clothes/dishes/room, the big question is will her boyfriend?
I know, men are from Mars, women are from Venus.

Posted by: blonde914 May 13 2004, 05:03 PM

This morning I realized I didn't have to go looking for my shoes (which is only one item she borrowed without asking) My makeup was right where I left it, I didn't have to wake her up 10 times while trying to get ready for work, she wasn't looking for a hand out for lunch money, she didn't have to move her car for me to leave, no arguments, enough hot water, and no empty milk carton in the fridge. I could get used to this.

Oh wait, there are still 4 kids left to get out the door. I think I could get used to them leaving very easily,

Sherry

Posted by: GWN7 May 13 2004, 08:58 PM

Now we know there was at least 1/4" of milk left in that carton. That way they aren't responsible for letting you know your out of milk. (Rule applys for OJ, soft drinks and bread)