I love to talk to people, don't you?
Sometimes people get excited and are happy to insert a wealth of profanity into their every sentence.
You can't just stick you fingers in your ears or slide a bar of soap into their mouth.
How can you tactfully say, " I like talking with you, but I don't appreciate the choice of language"?
Help me with this sensitive matter.
KT
you just tell them, dude.
if they're tough enough to swear like a sailor than they're tough enough not to get their feelings hurt.
nate
p.s. sorry if i used some poor language around you!!
Tell 'em to stop using such dirty damn language!
Cole
Joke about if you like or flame me down.
I like people and don't like to make them feel bad or uncomfortable.
I don't want come across as "I'm better than you" or judgemental.
I choose to be selective in my vocabulary and make a strong effort to respect people's feelings.
KT
I'm talking about face to face, not this forum BTW.
Trying to censor just becomes a shouting match, flame-a-thon and we all feel bad.
KT
say "hey, i know its your right to swear, but you are my friend and i'd appreciate it if you dont use language in front of me"
if they are truely your friend, theyll respect that
I'd just tell them politely that you don't use those words and you'd appreciate it if they would try not to when talking to you.
I'm pretty crass sometimes, but there are some words I really don't like to use, so I can understand.
Just say 'Please, profanity turns me off.' Quietly and with a sigh.
I understand how you feel. I spread my fair share of four letter words around but I know some people don't know when it's not appropriate. I work in construction so when I am in the field I will get alot of it when I'm talking to the crafts. If it goes on during the wrong time I'll throw something out there like "you kiss your mother with that mouth" and see if it stops. If not I'll just come right out and tell them that I'll wait to talk to them later when they can control it.
QUOTE (Aaron Cox @ Mar 6 2005, 05:20 PM) |
say "hey, i know its your right to swear, but you are my friend and i'd appreciate it if you dont use language in front of me" if they are truely your friend, theyll respect that |
hey I'm an old jerseyguy, to us its not swearing, sometimes we just need a reminder that we are hanging out with normal people...
Try like we do in the hanger."Hey dumb ass wanna clean it up a bit" It works
be polite .... but forward.tell em you dont like it
james
Fingers in ears, eyes shut and " LALALALALALALALALA"
otherwise konwn as "the Vancome lady"
Just remember Trekkor, you'll never get it if you don't ask for it.
You have as much right to have a profanity free conversation as your "friend" does to use profanity. If you don't appreciate it, you need to say so. If they value their realtionship with you, they will respect your wishes.
So tell the m)*&^!fu*^%# to eat s@#t and shut the f^&% u!
QUOTE (trekkor @ Mar 6 2005, 03:54 PM) |
How can you tactfully say, " I like talking with you, but I don't appreciate the choice of language"? |
I don't cuss like a sailor... I cuss like a soldier.
Seriously, though. Sometimes my mouth gets pretty foul, and sometimes I forget where I am and just talk like I'm out in the field, emplacing weapons on the perimeter.
I *know* that profanity is a sign of a mind lazy/not creative enough to come up with other ways to say things... but I still do it.
I appreciate it when someone says to me... "dude, enough with the F-word."
-Rusty
I always say: "I know that you were raised to speak that way, but please Grandma, don't cuss in front of the refrigerator."
Hi,
After 3 years in the Army, after i was home, my best friend told me that he didn't think I could talk if I couldn't use the f word in a sentence. I was not offended and I realized how versatile the f word is and how imbedded into my speech pattern it had become. I didn't even noticed that I used it that much. Anyway, it was some of the best advice I had ever recieved.
Carlos
QUOTE (trekkor @ Mar 6 2005, 01:54 PM) |
You can't just stick you fingers in your ears or slide a bar of soap into their mouth. Help me with this sensitive matter. KT |
Thank you for your helpful replies.
KT
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