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Posted by: BMXerror Sep 23 2008, 07:19 PM
Well... What the title says. He worked on heavy equipment, and something fell on him. We still don't know all the details. He was 29 years old, and one of the kindest men I ever knew. He was always up for a good time and loved anything with a motor... or two. He was an enormous help with race prepping the 914! Whenever there was a project that I was stuck on, he would come up with some ingenious solution in no time flat, and he was always willing to put in the wrench work when it was crunch time for no pay! He just loved working on things. Plus, he was always willing to help people for no return! He was just a very loving and generous man. I'm not sure how I'll do it without him. I will finish the car, though! It's what he would've wanted.
A couple of you may have met him by my side on parts runs or at the two AX events we attended. The PCA event at Snow Valley was his first and last, but he managed a VERY respectable 5th place in a car that he was unfamiliar with and that was way under powered in the field! He was just like that. He was good at anything he attempted, and he made it look easy! That race was my small way of trying to show my appreciation for all he'd done for me, but it got him all enthused about racing. The very next day he came into my room and was like, "Hey, there's an autocross in Bakersfield in about a month! lol He just loved life!
I'm still kinda numb right now, but I know he's going to leave a huge hole in a lot of people's lives! Below is a picture of him from Snow Valley. He's the fat party animal with the straw hat on and I'm the twig boy to the right! 
I'm sure I'll find a better picture later, but his kicked back demeanor is how I'll remember him. Thanks for letting me vent.
James Allen DeShon II Dec. 1st 1978- Sep. 23rd 2008
Mark D.
Posted by: Gint Sep 23 2008, 07:23 PM
Words fail me. That's terrible and I'm sorry for your loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do.
Posted by: Heeltoe914 Sep 23 2008, 07:26 PM
+1 I cant even try to understand how you feel. I dont wont to feel that kind of pain. Bless you and yours.
Posted by: tapout Sep 23 2008, 07:28 PM
Thoughts and prayers from a new member in Minnesota. Hang in there.- Kel
Posted by: rick 918-S Sep 23 2008, 07:30 PM
I'm so sorry to read this. There are no words.
Posted by: George H. Sep 23 2008, 07:33 PM
my sincere condolences
Posted by: jd74914 Sep 23 2008, 07:34 PM
I too am at a loss for words; I am so sorry for your loss Mark.Loosing one of my brothers is unimaginable. May he rest in peace and the good memories remain forever. My prayers are going out to you and your family.
Posted by: carr914 Sep 23 2008, 07:34 PM
Mark, I truly feel your pain as I lost my best friend, Ronnie, today. I know of no words other that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
T.C.
Posted by: scotty b Sep 23 2008, 07:34 PM
Really sorry man, I can't imagine what you're going through.
Posted by: Bruce Hinds Sep 23 2008, 07:37 PM
That's about as tough as it gets I think. My brother died 35 years ago... I was 25, he was 19. I'd just survived Viet Nam and he dies of cancer. Like you, we shared a passion, we wanted to build cars and airplanes together.
All I can say is that you will inherit a part of his spirit and you will now live your life for the both of you. It won't be easy, and you'll never forget. But you're life will be richer having know him. Promise....
Bruce
old V8 guy
Posted by: jc914 Sep 23 2008, 07:47 PM
my sincere condolences
Posted by: Mark Henry Sep 23 2008, 07:55 PM
Lost my Brother to the big C a couple of years back, so I feel your pain, but...29, damn that sucks
Sorry for your loss.
Posted by: byndbad914 Sep 23 2008, 08:00 PM
OMG sooooo sorry man. My uncle was killed in the similar fashion - he was working under some farm equipment and the jack failed - down it came.
Posted by: JRust Sep 23 2008, 08:07 PM
Man that really sucks. Had a scare with my bro just a few months ago. He's had a heart condition since birth. Everything worked out though. Still was hard to imagine my life without him in it. I feel for you man. If there is anything I can do please let me know. I'm so sorry for your loss
Posted by: scottb Sep 23 2008, 08:08 PM
no words that make sense...
my condolences....
be well.
Posted by: stateofidleness Sep 23 2008, 08:10 PM
wow. condolences from texas.
I just lost my last grandparent so I feel for ya
Posted by: jasons Sep 23 2008, 08:11 PM
No words.... Godspeed.
Posted by: tronporsche Sep 23 2008, 08:17 PM
I Hope things can be lite weight for you, this is certainly a heavy load to bare. Hang in there man, you might have to be the family member to keep it together for everyone. I am so sad to hear about this.
Posted by: watsonrx13 Sep 23 2008, 08:20 PM
I too am at a loss for words...my sincere condolences...
-- Rob
Posted by: dlestep Sep 23 2008, 08:27 PM
...the empty loss is hard to deal with...there will be a day that his memory will start to heal the gap...
I lost my youngest brother, Kevin, in a car accident. The hardest thing for me was during the wake, I was holding my grandson in my arms as I told everyone that I held my brother in the same way. Today, I see a piece of my brother in all of my other siblings, and even in some of his friends.
Peace for your heart...celebrate his life...and carry him forward within yourself.
Posted by: messix Sep 23 2008, 08:40 PM
that sucks, no words for such a sudden loss.
Posted by: BMXerror Sep 23 2008, 08:41 PM
Thank you all for your kind words. I've never lost someone so close, (or close at all) and my words all seemed rather empty when I consoled others, but trust me, they do mean a lot! I'm still kinda numb, but it was very hard to tell my best friend. She never met him, but I figured she'd want to know.
I forgot to post this before. A link to my brother's Flickr account! Ury ought to know this one!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/socalracepics
Photography was his latest hobby. He was multi-talented. He was also thinking of getting a 914 and joining up here since he had become so familiar with mine and had come to love them and all Porsches! He was super excited when I told him that Porsche will be the featured car at the Monterey Historics next year and said 'we have to go!' Just kinda rambling on right now, and trying to keep track of all the people cycling through my house. He was well loved by many! Thanks again. Thank God for the -World
Mark D.
P.S. Carr914, I already sent some love your way. Thank you. We'll get through it.
Posted by: Joe Owensby Sep 23 2008, 08:54 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you from South Carolina. JoeO
Posted by: So.Cal.914 Sep 23 2008, 09:07 PM
I am Sorry for your loss, did that 40 years back. He will always be in your heart and if you listen close he will still be there. God Bless you and your Family, my wife and I will pray for you all.
Posted by: Lou W Sep 23 2008, 09:16 PM
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, my prayers are with you and your family.
Posted by: championgt1 Sep 23 2008, 09:37 PM
So sorry. You and your family will be in our prayers.
Posted by: kpfoten Sep 23 2008, 09:42 PM
My prayers are with you, man. You've got a great community of friends here, and even though many of us don't know you, we feel what you're going through and hope for the best for you and yours.
Posted by: davep Sep 23 2008, 10:04 PM
Our sincere condolences.
Posted by: iamchappy Sep 23 2008, 10:25 PM
My heart goes out to you and yours.
Posted by: Twystd1 Sep 23 2008, 10:31 PM
I'm sending you the most loving vibes I can muster.
I am kinda speechless.
Clayton
Posted by: Phoenix 914-6GT Sep 23 2008, 10:31 PM
Very sorry to hear of this news. My family will keep you and your family in our prayers.
Posted by: justdrive914 Sep 23 2008, 10:49 PM
I wanted to let you know I feel your pain, my uncle who was like a father to my died four years ago this last july, He was the guy who got me into the 914 he gave me his old one to restore and I helped him with his 911 all the time, I hope that everything goes well and I'm sorry for your loss.
Andrew
Posted by: skeates Sep 23 2008, 11:56 PM
You will be in our prayers here in Sacramento. Peace and hope to you and your family
Posted by: Mrs. K Sep 24 2008, 01:17 AM
Not much anyone can say except how sorry we are for your loss
Life is so precious, and losing your brother like that.......so young and
so suddenly is horrible!
I sincerely hope you can only remember the wonderful things about him
and that it was just his time (I guess)
I know that is what the ministers and priests usually say,
it seems like BS to me, but I do believe that the good die young...........
which is why I will live to 100!
My sincere condolences.....God bless you, your family and all who loved him! 
Lisa
Posted by: plymouth37 Sep 24 2008, 01:25 AM
I can't even begin to imagine the hurt you must be feeling.
Remember the good times and know that he is looking out for you from above.
I am so sorry for your loss, hang in there buddy.
Dana
Posted by: dw914er Sep 24 2008, 01:28 AM
my condolences as well. Hang in there.
Posted by: Gustl Sep 24 2008, 05:11 AM
my sincere condolences
can't say any more ...
Posted by: zymurgist Sep 24 2008, 05:42 AM
I'm sorry to hear this. Losing a close family member is hard whether you have advance warning or not.
Posted by: Vacca Rabite Sep 24 2008, 07:55 AM
Sucks dude. I'm sorry for your loss. I had a good time looking through his race pictures.
Zach
Posted by: nsr-jamie Sep 24 2008, 08:18 AM
I am so sorry to hear that, nothing I can say other than my sincere condolences to you and your Family in these hard times.
Posted by: 914rrr Sep 24 2008, 08:19 AM
That is a tragic story, and we feel your pain.
Our thoughts are with you, friends, and family.
Rob and Nel
Posted by: 396 Sep 24 2008, 08:23 AM
Sorry to hear.... God Speed to your Brother.. Three weeks ago I lost a good buddy of 35 years. Leo Gin... he was all ways there to assist me in pulling the -6 motor and or 911 motors with me. Hit me hard too. It will be better, but it will take time. All the best
Posted by: carr914 Sep 24 2008, 08:24 AM
Mark, I sent your my Cell# if you need to talk.
T.C.
Posted by: Eric_Shea Sep 24 2008, 08:32 AM
Very sorry for your loss.
Posted by: dbgriffith75 Sep 24 2008, 10:54 AM
Sorry for your loss... My condolences to you and your family.
Posted by: MrZir Sep 24 2008, 12:24 PM
My condolences to you and your family for your loss.
Posted by: Travis Neff Sep 24 2008, 12:34 PM
That's rough. My condolences.
Posted by: r_towle Sep 24 2008, 03:01 PM
Celebrate your brother and the time you had to spend with him.
Remember his great qualities. The fun times, the great times.
Finish the car and live life like he would have wanted.
Be strong...you will get through it.
Rich
Posted by: anderssj Sep 24 2008, 04:00 PM
So sorry for your loss--here's hoping you will find comfort in happy memories . . . .
Posted by: hwgunner Sep 24 2008, 04:07 PM
GODSPEED!!
Posted by: WaideS Sep 24 2008, 04:27 PM
Sorry for your loss.....
Best wishes
Posted by: rebelmdot Sep 24 2008, 09:33 PM
My business partner lost his 39 year old sister out of the blue two weeks ago. I have seen first hand the horrible saddness of losing a family member so young, but I also saw a family pull together with strength and love. May God hold your hearts in his hands to ease the pain and guide you through this tragic time. We are here for you in whatever way we can be, so ask if you need.
Posted by: Sparky Sep 24 2008, 10:17 PM
I lost my father 86 days ago. I didn't post anything up because I was trying to deal with the grief myself. I'm still having a hard time with it, but with the help and support of my family and friends I'm getting by. Lean on your family and friends for support. The pain never stops, you'll just deal with it better everyday.
My thoughts and prayers to you and your family,
Mike D.
Posted by: KELTY360 Sep 24 2008, 10:24 PM
So sorry, man. I just got back from a week-long camping trip with my brother and your tragedy really hits home. We have to cherish those times we have together and use them to soothe the grief.
Posted by: 914 Sep 24 2008, 10:30 PM
Sorry for your loss..
914
Posted by: Toast Sep 27 2008, 02:07 AM
OMG! 
I am Soooo Sorry Mark!!! That is the most horrible news I could have ever received!
I know that no words that I say will make it any better or make you feel less pain. I hope that comfort and peace find you at just the right time.
Know that we all love and care about you and those of us that were lucky enough to meet James will remember his shyness and sweet and tender voice and the brightness that his smile gave.
Mark, I still have the Riverside PCA magazine that used your brothers picture for that AX. I will send it to you asap. Thank you for notifying me and I am tremendously sorry for your loss. Please feel free to call me at anytime!
Goodspeed James!
Melba
Posted by: wbergtho Sep 27 2008, 09:53 AM
My condolences. Very sorry to hear this.
Posted by: KaptKaos Sep 27 2008, 10:54 AM
So very sorry to hear this. Godspeed and prayers sent.
Posted by: jc914 Sep 28 2008, 05:36 PM
Sorry for your loss My condolences to you and your family.
Posted by: MrKona Sep 28 2008, 09:34 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. Stay strong - and lean on your family and friends as you get through this.
Posted by: BMXerror Sep 28 2008, 10:03 PM
The funeral was yesterday. They stopped counting at 450 people! This was for a man that was always broke, too! haha... He was rich in spirit, though, and I heard a lot of personal stories from people as to why they felt they had to pay their respects! It was actually more uplifting than upsetting. I never received so many hugs or phone calls in my life! However, now that most of the noise has quieted down, I can actually mourn for my brother. Hasn't really been possible the past couple days...
A couple facts... He actually went by 'Allen'... He HATED being called 'James'! Sorry Toast! He really had a fondness for you! BTW I found a better picture! 
Thank you all for the support! I'll probably need some technical expertise from you to fill the hole he left behind... But I also need to let this thread go! Thank you all! 
Mark D.
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