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OT: how do you tell somone..., without hurting their feelings? |
Trekkor |
Mar 6 2005, 03:54 PM
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I do things... Group: Members Posts: 7,809 Joined: 2-December 03 From: Napa, Ca Member No.: 1,413 Region Association: Northern California |
I love to talk to people, don't you?
Sometimes people get excited and are happy to insert a wealth of profanity into their every sentence. (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/barf.gif) You can't just stick you fingers in your ears or slide a bar of soap into their mouth. How can you tactfully say, " I like talking with you, but I don't appreciate the choice of language"? Help me with this sensitive matter. KT |
nebreitling |
Mar 6 2005, 04:05 PM
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Member Emeritus Group: Members Posts: 3,314 Joined: 26-March 03 From: San Francisco Member No.: 478 |
you just tell them, dude.
if they're tough enough to swear like a sailor than they're tough enough not to get their feelings hurt. nate p.s. sorry if i used some poor language around you!! (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/beerchug.gif) |
wrpspddrvr |
Mar 6 2005, 04:11 PM
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Member Group: Members Posts: 333 Joined: 22-December 04 Member No.: 3,317 Region Association: None |
Tell 'em to stop using such dirty damn language! (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/ohmy.gif)
Cole (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/monkeydance.gif) |
Trekkor |
Mar 6 2005, 04:17 PM
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I do things... Group: Members Posts: 7,809 Joined: 2-December 03 From: Napa, Ca Member No.: 1,413 Region Association: Northern California |
Joke about if you like or flame me down.
I like people and don't like to make them feel bad or uncomfortable. I don't want come across as "I'm better than you" or judgemental. I choose to be selective in my vocabulary and make a strong effort to respect people's feelings. (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/smile.gif) KT |
Trekkor |
Mar 6 2005, 04:20 PM
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I do things... Group: Members Posts: 7,809 Joined: 2-December 03 From: Napa, Ca Member No.: 1,413 Region Association: Northern California |
I'm talking about face to face, not this forum BTW. (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/chatsmiley.gif)
Trying to censor just becomes a shouting match, flame-a-thon and we all feel bad. (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/sad2.gif) KT |
Aaron Cox |
Mar 6 2005, 04:20 PM
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Professional Lawn Dart Group: Retired Admin Posts: 24,541 Joined: 1-February 03 From: OC Member No.: 219 Region Association: Southern California |
say "hey, i know its your right to swear, but you are my friend and i'd appreciate it if you dont use language in front of me"
if they are truely your friend, theyll respect that (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/unsure.gif) |
seanery |
Mar 6 2005, 04:21 PM
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waiting to rebuild whitey! Group: Retired Admin Posts: 15,852 Joined: 7-January 03 From: Indy Member No.: 100 Region Association: None |
I'd just tell them politely that you don't use those words and you'd appreciate it if they would try not to when talking to you.
I'm pretty crass sometimes, but there are some words I really don't like to use, so I can understand. |
davep |
Mar 6 2005, 04:22 PM
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914 Historian Group: Benefactors Posts: 5,141 Joined: 13-October 03 From: Burford, ON, N0E 1A0 Member No.: 1,244 Region Association: Canada |
Just say 'Please, profanity turns me off.' Quietly and with a sigh.
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Allan |
Mar 6 2005, 04:23 PM
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Teenerless Weenie Group: Members Posts: 8,373 Joined: 5-July 04 From: Western Mesopotamia Member No.: 2,304 Region Association: Southern California |
I understand how you feel. I spread my fair share of four letter words around but I know some people don't know when it's not appropriate. I work in construction so when I am in the field I will get alot of it when I'm talking to the crafts. If it goes on during the wrong time I'll throw something out there like "you kiss your mother with that mouth" and see if it stops. If not I'll just come right out and tell them that I'll wait to talk to them later when they can control it.
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tat2dphreak |
Mar 6 2005, 04:26 PM
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stoya, stoya, stoya Group: Benefactors Posts: 8,797 Joined: 6-June 03 From: Wylie, TX Member No.: 792 Region Association: Southwest Region |
(IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/agree.gif) I can be the "sailor" at times, and an honest approach is best.... just say "I'm sorry, but do you mind... " and usually, people like me don't realize they are going overboard... esp. if I'm angry or riled up about something... they will understand |
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415PB |
Mar 6 2005, 04:47 PM
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Member Group: Benefactors Posts: 498 Joined: 7-August 03 From: So Cal Member No.: 996 |
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d914 |
Mar 6 2005, 04:48 PM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 2,331 Joined: 12-July 03 From: Atlanta, ga Member No.: 904 Region Association: South East States |
hey I'm an old jerseyguy, to us its not swearing, sometimes we just need a reminder that we are hanging out with normal people...
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spare time toys |
Mar 6 2005, 04:51 PM
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hooked on grilling food. Group: Members Posts: 4,059 Joined: 3-April 04 From: West Plano Tx Member No.: 1,884 Region Association: Southwest Region |
Try like we do in the hanger."Hey dumb ass wanna clean it up a bit" (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/mad.gif) It works
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morph |
Mar 6 2005, 05:29 PM
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quality parts builder Group: Members Posts: 1,828 Joined: 25-November 03 From: oregon coast Member No.: 1,389 Region Association: Pacific Northwest |
be polite .... but forward.tell em you dont like it
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scotty b |
Mar 6 2005, 05:33 PM
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rust free you say ? Group: Members Posts: 16,375 Joined: 7-January 05 From: richmond, Va. Member No.: 3,419 Region Association: None |
Fingers in ears, eyes shut and " LALALALALALALALALA"
otherwise konwn as "the Vancome lady" (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/biggrin.gif) |
Gint |
Mar 6 2005, 06:30 PM
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Mike Ginter Group: Admin Posts: 16,071 Joined: 26-December 02 From: Denver CO. Member No.: 20 Region Association: Rocky Mountains |
Just remember Trekkor, you'll never get it if you don't ask for it.
You have as much right to have a profanity free conversation as your "friend" does to use profanity. If you don't appreciate it, you need to say so. If they value their realtionship with you, they will respect your wishes. So tell the m)*&^!fu*^%# to eat s@#t and shut the f^&% u! |
TheCabinetmaker |
Mar 6 2005, 06:58 PM
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I drive my car everyday Group: Members Posts: 8,300 Joined: 8-May 03 From: Tulsa, Ok. Member No.: 666 |
I think you already fiqured it out. That's about as tactful and truthful as you can get. I had and "ex" employee who insisted on using that kinda language anytime there was a female around. Problem was, those females were my customers. I wasn't very tactful. I told him (in front of one of them) to clean it up or hit the road. He was gone ten minutes later, and good riddance!!!! Chances are, he's been talking like that all his life and learned it from his dad. If he can't accept a little contructive critisim, and your honesty in wanting to protect the friendship, He's prolly not that good a friend anyway. Now, I'm gonna go throw some rocks at the prick running up and down the street at 40mph on his 4 wheeler with open pipes! (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/ar15.gif) (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/laugh.gif) (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/laugh.gif) (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/laugh.gif) |
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Rusty |
Mar 6 2005, 07:00 PM
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Wanted: Engine case GA003709 Group: Admin Posts: 7,941 Joined: 24-December 02 From: North Alabama Member No.: 6 Region Association: Galt's Gulch |
I don't cuss like a sailor... I cuss like a soldier. (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/smile.gif)
Seriously, though. Sometimes my mouth gets pretty foul, and sometimes I forget where I am and just talk like I'm out in the field, emplacing weapons on the perimeter. I *know* that profanity is a sign of a mind lazy/not creative enough to come up with other ways to say things... but I still do it. I appreciate it when someone says to me... "dude, enough with the F-word." -Rusty (IMG:http://www.914world.com/bbs2/html/emoticons/smoke.gif) |
balljoint |
Mar 6 2005, 07:02 PM
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914 Wizard Group: Members Posts: 10,000 Joined: 6-April 04 Member No.: 1,897 Region Association: None |
I always say: "I know that you were raised to speak that way, but please Grandma, don't cuss in front of the refrigerator."
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cgnj |
Mar 6 2005, 07:18 PM
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Senior Member Group: Members Posts: 623 Joined: 6-March 03 From: Medford, NJ Member No.: 403 Region Association: None |
Hi,
After 3 years in the Army, after i was home, my best friend told me that he didn't think I could talk if I couldn't use the f word in a sentence. I was not offended and I realized how versatile the f word is and how imbedded into my speech pattern it had become. I didn't even noticed that I used it that much. Anyway, it was some of the best advice I had ever recieved. Carlos |
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