 914 ownership and marriage/relationship woes go hand in hand?, the car and the web are evil according to my wife :) |
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| SirAndy |
 Sep 7 2006, 09:59 PM
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Resident German  Group: Admin Posts: 42,258 Joined: 21-January 03 From: Oakland, Kalifornia Member No.: 179 Region Association: Northern California  |
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| 0396 |
Sep 7 2006, 10:10 PM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 2,046 Joined: 13-October 03 From: L.A. Calif Member No.: 1,245 Region Association: Southern California |
Mike,
Long time no talk..I noticed this tread and had to put my two cents in. If you remember, I mention that I finished my motor 6 years before I even installed it in my -6.. And don’t forget that I had to give up my 2nd hobby ( skiing ) for 7 years before I even got back on my skies( had 21 days on the MT this last season). . Some things ‘just’ have to take precedence over others. What I did during those years was to save the ‘peace’ - spend /work on my Porsches ONLY when the better half was not around. Second, work and grow your financial base So you can ‘buy’ any time you want. Third, maintain and grow the relationship with the better half- other wise all is lost when one has to pay child support! Being married is like having another job. PS I now have 7 cars in the family (three drivers) and 5 are for me (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) |
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| Joe Bob |
Sep 7 2006, 10:12 PM
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Retired admin, banned a few times Group: Members Posts: 17,427 Joined: 24-December 02 From: Boulder CO Member No.: 5 Region Association: None |
QUOTE(Jenny @ Sep 7 2006, 08:51 PM)  Another thing, Mike. Do you tell her about us? We are your friends. I tell Brian all about you guys. He knows about #4, your twins, Fiid's kids, why Fiid's name is 'Fiid', he knows about ^Easton^ and ^James^, Karl & Hunter, Miles and his goat, Chung's home improvements, DD's lawyer, McMark's unhealthy obsession with burgers, Andy's recent medical anomaly and his grandchild, Turtle Mountain Brewery, etc... Help her understand that it's much more than just a car club. We actually share more than how-to's for our cars. We share ourselves. Jen He musta said something to her about me....they came by the house and she wouldn't get outta the car....and that was a LONG time ago.....prolly thinks I'm an axe murderer by now.... |
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| Toast |
Sep 7 2006, 10:32 PM
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Not bad for carrying sway bars. Group: Members Posts: 3,380 Joined: 20-January 04 From: Las Vegas Member No.: 1,580 Region Association: Southwest Region |
I love being unwed. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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| PRS914-6 |
Sep 7 2006, 11:01 PM
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Excellence Magazine Project 914 3.6 Group: Retired Members Posts: 1,278 Joined: 20-May 06 From: Central California Member No.: 6,031 Region Association: None  |
Mike, I wrote an article that hopefully will be in the Dec issue of Excellence about most of us car builders . Basically, the focus is making a plan for your project (before you start) and sticking with it to avoid this problem. (For instance, those flares)
Anyway, sit down and really decide what you want with your car. Make a budget and stick with it......Your wife will be easier on you if she knows you have a goal and are staying with it..... |
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| Air_Cooled_Nut |
Sep 7 2006, 11:41 PM
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914 Ronin - 914 owner who lost his 914club.com Group: Members Posts: 1,748 Joined: 19-April 03 From: Beaverton, Oregon Member No.: 584 Region Association: None |
QUOTE(Toast @ Sep 7 2006, 09:32 PM) Sweetheart, I'm unwed and I'm having to deal with this shit as well. If I was making enough money I'd be an alcoholic (IMG:style_emoticons/default/givemebeer.gif) Wish I could give some advice but I'm actually trying to follow SirAndy's advice. My girl entered this relationship knowing I was a car adict AND she doesn't have a hobby (as my buddy told me, I'm her freakin' hobby). It has been getting better and it does boil down to dividing my time 'tween my hobby (wrenching/internetting/reading/collecting cars) and my girl. It's tough to do but I'm getting better at it because we're having less conflicts with it. It also helps that she tries to be a part of my passion e.g. she joined us on the Mt. Hood cruise at the WCC2006. If your partner doesn't accept your passion then it's gonna be an uncomfortable ride (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) |
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| So.Cal.914 |
Sep 7 2006, 11:44 PM
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"...And it has a front trunk too." Group: Members Posts: 6,588 Joined: 15-February 04 From: Low Desert, CA./ Hills of N.J. Member No.: 1,658 Region Association: None |
QUOTE(PRS914-6 @ Sep 7 2006, 10:01 PM) Anyway, sit down and really decide what you want with your car. Make a budget and stick with it......Your wife will be easier on you if she knows you have a goal and are staying with it..... I have found that it is easier on her and myself if I keep the "how much" to myself. It's going to be spent anyway so why fight over it. What she wants to see is results, something finished. While I am building an engine nothing is getting done until it is in the car running. So restore one thing at a time and leave it in a place it can be seen, works for me. |
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| McMark |
Sep 7 2006, 11:46 PM
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914 Freak! Group: Retired Admin Posts: 20,180 Joined: 13-March 03 From: Grand Rapids, MI Member No.: 419 Region Association: None |
I had the "too much 914Club" talk the other night. And most of the time I find that I'm bumping the board just waiting for something new to post. Now I get in, read the new stuff, and then shut it down. But, I agree that she's probably feeling a little jealous. So you probably should mention anything 914 related (club or car) for the next week or two. If she brings it up, fine, you can talk about it. But don't be the first one to mention cars. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
Oh and the revelation/idea you told me about on Tuesday is a good step in the right direction. You need to spend the little time as you have available finishing your car. If you want my advice on a timeline, here it is: Throw the L-Jet on the car and get it running. Get the rear control arms built and installed. Get stock brakes installed and bled. Drop on some stock wheels with cheapie tires. That'll get you drivable. And drivable will get you points with the wife. Then once you've got a proven runner, move on to improvements that won't take the car out of commision. Flare the fenders one at a time. It'll look funny while it's in progress, but WHO CARES! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif) If you're still gonna do the turbo project, build the hard bits off the car on one of your bench engines. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif) The point is not to start any projects that you can't finish in a couple days. And finally, and most importantly, call on your friends for help. I'm more than willing to show up and help tackle projects to make it and keep it running. |
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| TJB/914 |
Sep 8 2006, 06:04 AM
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Mid-Engn. Group: Members Posts: 4,420 Joined: 24-February 03 From: Plymouth & Petoskey, MI Member No.: 346 Region Association: Upper MidWest 
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Just want to add my last piece of advise.
Jenny really nailed it & so did Mark about what this club is all about. Everyone else had great advise. My final advise, because so many of you have young children. Don't try to build the ultimate machine while the children are young. Keep the girl friend, wife & children first in your life & the car second in life. Build a future first, then the rewards will come later in life. So many of us get into long term projects & should just build & drive what you can afford early in life. My personal story: It was a struggle while the kids were growing up to plan their future, take care of the wife & build a business. It was only later in life when I was able to build my (5) year 914 project. Early years were about dreaming of it & planning our future. "Family comes first" & 914's come later. Tom |
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| DNHunt |
Sep 8 2006, 07:25 AM
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914 Wizard? No way. I got too much to learn. Group: Members Posts: 4,099 Joined: 21-April 03 From: Gig Harbor, WA Member No.: 598 |
QUOTE(Jenny @ Sep 7 2006, 04:30 PM) Jen Not quite right. Most timeshares let you trade yours for others. Yikes Dave |
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| Howard |
Sep 8 2006, 07:51 AM
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Incontin(g)ent Member Group: Benefactors Posts: 5,785 Joined: 24-July 03 From: Westlake Village, CA Member No.: 943 Region Association: None 
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QUOTE(Thomas J Bliznik @ Sep 8 2006, 05:04 AM) Just want to add my last piece of advise. Jenny really nailed it & so did Mark about what this club is all about. Everyone else had great advise. My final advise, because so many of you have young children. Don't try to build the ultimate machine while the children are young. Keep the girl friend, wife & children first in your life & the car second in life. Build a future first, then the rewards will come later in life. So many of us get into long term projects & should just build & drive what you can afford early in life. My personal story: It was a struggle while the kids were growing up to plan their future, take care of the wife & build a business. It was only later in life when I was able to build my (5) year 914 project. Early years were about dreaming of it & planning our future. "Family comes first" & 914's come later. Tom (IMG:style_emoticons/default/agree.gif) Screwed around with cars 18-24. Did the other stuff (family, business, life) 25-60. 60-??? Screw around with cars. |
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| gopack |
Sep 8 2006, 08:24 AM
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CHEESEHEAD in CA, MARK Group: Members Posts: 744 Joined: 7-August 04 From: Folsom, CA Member No.: 2,472 Region Association: Northern California |
My wife has been pretty understanding. and when I bought the car I told her 10-20 K before it would be done. now though it is at the body/restoration shop, and as the money FLIES out, she is getting nervous. I see the end of the tunnel, and she says things like "maybe you need to wait a while" or "how much is it going to cost to get it painted? maybe you should wait" I see this as the opportunity to get it done before the money I budgeted for this gets redirected to another want/need(vacations etc).
In a way it is a struggle, but hopefully next year, my project will be at least on the road, and something we can both enjoy together. |
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| elwood-914 |
Sep 8 2006, 08:52 AM
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elwood-914 Group: Members Posts: 387 Joined: 29-December 02 From: Plymouth CA Member No.: 38 |
Get used to it. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif) If it isnt the 914.....it's flying lessons.....it's fishing or any other hobby you have. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/screwy.gif)
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| jonwatts |
Sep 8 2006, 09:19 AM
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no rules, just wrong Group: Benefactors Posts: 2,321 Joined: 13-January 03 From: San Jose, CA Member No.: 141 |
I tell her "this conversation would go much better with pie."
She says "we don't have any pie." And I say "no, but we have a kitchen." That usually gets the conversation moving |
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| racunniff |
Sep 8 2006, 10:21 AM
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volt914 Group: Members Posts: 172 Joined: 21-August 06 From: Fort Collins, CO Member No.: 6,705 Region Association: Rocky Mountains |
QUOTE(highways @ Sep 7 2006, 04:06 PM) Man I don't know why everyone is giving such horrible advice here but I think the answer is obvious. Put the kids to work buffing and polishing the car parts and jack stands 6 hours a day, while you do your interneting. Consolidate, consolidate, consolidate. Send the slacker kid on trips to the post office to mail ebay items your going to be selling- to pay for your wifes weekly 6 hour pedicures/facials/massage. Kids busy. Wife's busy. You're busy. No more whinning!! Then you can sit back and start resembling my avatar! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/agree.gif) Very insightful. I put my 18-year-old to work with the orbital sander and got to spend 6 extra hours helping my with with projects *she* wanted to accomplish. Suffice to say, the end results were very satisfying, both in the relationship as well as progress on the teener... There are plenty of things that even much younger kids can do - i.e. helping hand you tools, etc. Just be careful not to engage in a frustrating activity with young ears around or you may end up enhancing their vocabulary in ways that will not be beneficial to family peace (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) |
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| Aaron Cox |
Sep 8 2006, 10:37 AM
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Professional Lawn Dart Group: Retired Admin Posts: 24,542 Joined: 1-February 03 From: Corona, CA Member No.: 219 Region Association: Southern California |
QUOTE(jonwatts @ Sep 8 2006, 08:19 AM) I tell her "this conversation would go much better with pie." She says "we don't have any pie." And I say "no, but we have a kitchen." That usually gets the conversation moving ROTFL....... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/chairfall.gif) |
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| Jenny |
Sep 8 2006, 10:49 AM
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Advanced Member Group: Members Posts: 4,060 Joined: 6-January 03 Member No.: 96 Region Association: None |
Kennedy and Taylor probably aren't too good with their hand eye coordination just yet. In a couple years, I have no doubt they'll make wonderful tool wenchlets. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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| ClayPerrine |
Sep 8 2006, 10:51 AM
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Life's been good to me so far..... Group: Admin Posts: 16,462 Joined: 11-September 03 From: Hurst, TX. Member No.: 1,143 Region Association: NineFourteenerVille
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QUOTE(Toast @ Sep 7 2006, 11:32 PM) Toasty one.... If I wasn't already married I would be burning up the frequent flyer miles. For the rest of you..... I have nothing to compare to Mike's situation. Betty is just as much of a 914 addict as I am. But she is a bit shy and just lurks here.. so I get "Clay, did you see the thread on the club site about so and so? You need to get on and reply." Then she has to play editor for my reply. Gotta love a girl who wanted a Cardex for her birthday. She got it too (plus perfume). |
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| Sparky |
Sep 8 2006, 11:28 AM
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Mahna Mahna! Group: Members Posts: 1,134 Joined: 21-June 03 From: Spencer, MA Member No.: 847 |
QUOTE(fiid @ Sep 7 2006, 07:46 PM) ....so Susan can do bookmaking out there and not be in the house proper.... Susan's a bookie?! Sweet! All the really good ones in Boston are gone. Is she taking new "clients"? |
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| mrdezyne |
Sep 8 2006, 01:26 PM
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Now on larger rolling jack stands! Group: Members Posts: 468 Joined: 31-July 05 From: Tulsa, OK Member No.: 4,510 |
Getting MAUIED in TWO very SHORT weeks. I made sure early on while we were dating to clue her into my "hobby/addiction" to which she responded with "hurry up and get it done so you can start on my 55' (restored 55' Chevy sitting in storage for the past 12 years!), to which I responded, "God I love you!". This plus the fact that the 914 is at my dads shop in another town has kept and hopefully will keep some peace between us over the car addiction. However I have been taking notes and writing down some of the suggestions to use later on if needed. Thanks!
Oh, and my advice..... um, listen to your 914club bretheren, sounds like they are here to help you with whatever troubles you might have.... |
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