Thanks for all the replies.
Why would I use a single part polyurethane marine finish on my car, and not an automotive finish? Because all the info I could collect indicated that if I were not going to spray, the Interlux boat finish was best. It wasn't cheap, in fact probably cost about as much as good automotive paint, but the word on the forums where people discuss roll-on paint jobs is that this is the best one. It's supposed to be the logical improvement from the Rustoleum so-called $50 paint jobs. Part of the supposed advantage over Rustoleum is that, ulinke Rustoleum, this polyurethane can be painted over without the need for fully stripping. I was not aware that it did not have the hardeners that automotive paints have, or that it in general did not have the same wearability, or that it would stay gummy. In fact, this is exactly the opposite of the experiences posted by dozens of anonymous users.
My point was not to save time. I expect this method would take significantly MORE time than spraying, particularly considering the extra wet-sanding that would be required to get a decent finish. I also didn't do it to save money, at least that was not an important part of it. I did it because spraying creates a mess. I doubt any of you guys with tons of experience but without a booth can argue otherwise. I've done enough of it to know the fumes WILL get from the garage to the house. I also would have to buy a compressor, and woudl be limited to 110v, which means I couldn't even buy the one I would really want (that would allow me to set up a media blaster as well).
Why not let a pro do it? Two reasons: 1) I'd have to fully strip and prep the whole car at once, which means way more time with the car out of commission - I prefer to work on things a bit at a time where possible; and 2) Whenever possible, I want to do it myself. It's the same reason I've never taken my 914 to a mechanic in the 14 years I've owned it. I enjoy driving a car that I keep running and I restore and I upgrade.
I didn't go into this haphazardly. I get why several of you replying think that, since you are of the firm (and it appears correct) opinion that my roller job will not work. I must have spent dozens of hours reading about the best way to go about this before starting, including reading every post I could find on this board about painting (including everything I could find written by Scotty B.).
So, that's a long-winded way of explaining how I got here. I tried sanding the trunk again today with pretty much the same, paint-is-too-soft, result. I may give it another day or two and try again, but based on what I'm reading in these responses, I'm not optimistic.
The good news is that I started with the trunk because it's easy to start over on it. All I've lost is the week I spent priming and painting, whereas most of my bodywork and prep will still count. I may have to just give in a buy a proper compressor (hopefully I can get a good enough one in 110v) and deal with the mess.
Thanks again for all the replies. This forum is, as always, a huge help.
--Steve