That's a whole new can of worms, and everyone's comfort zone differs.
For me, I don't want to see a normal day operating temp over 210, maybe 220 highway, anything more than that on a regular basis warrents a oil cooler IMO.
I think short stints up to 240-250 are "ok" if the driving is extreme and it's not repeted often, say the end of a super hot track day, or going over the rockies in 90 plus heat.
I have seen all of the above in the various 914's I've owned. My Carbed 2056 ran the hottest, almost a constant 235 highway, untill I installed a cooler. My multiple stock Djet 2.0's ran 200-230 depending.
I used this:
http://www.mainelycustombydesign.com/engin...s.html#dipstickI found it to be very accurate, and after a few drives, pulling over and checking, you can calibrate the stock gauge that has no numbers to know where you stand while in motion.