ok, here are the wires for your headlight-relays. the pins on the relay should have numbers next to them!
NOTE: the relays are only for the motor. the headlights still work without the relays, they jusy won't move up/down.
pin 30 goes to the green wire
pin 85 goes to the black wire
pin 86 goes to the brown wire
pin 87 goes to the red wire
pin 87a goes to the brown wire
the yellow and white wires from the headlights go directly to the fuse panel, they're not run throgh the relay.
yellow goes to fuse 3 and 4, white goes to fuse 1 and 2
hope this helps,
Andy