Jered,
It looks like Mike/Dr. Evil is going to be able to hook you up with your seal. Like him, I believe that the same seal works for both the side and tail shifter.
Regarding oil. Any discussion about oil/lubricants ends up being a religious discussion in which you will get all kinds of different opinions. I also am of the opinion that synthetic is not the best for this transmission. The Porsche synchro design relies upon friction to work and it seems that the synthetics are just a bit more slippery than regular dino oil. Additionally I don't think that boutique oils are a requirement and in the long run not cost effective (little or no extra benefit for a lot of extra cost). However, you will find plenty of people who say Swepco is all that you should use. I personally recommend a good
name brand 80W90 GL-5 that you would commonly find at a local auto parts store. They are inexpensive and do a great job. Make sure it is GL-5 version!
I also have this
transmission lubrication article that you might find helpful. I list a few commonly available oils that I recommend as well as some to avoid.
You ask about short shift kits. I don't know if you are just looking to shorten the throws, improve shift quality or both. But if you haven't heard from someone already, you might first want to examine the various bushings in the shift linkage. If you are looking to ensure shift quality, that is probably the best place to start. Proper clutch adjustment is also good (make sure you can shift into reverse at a stop without any grinding) as well as proper shift linkage adjustment (Mike's transmission notes document has a good section on linkage adjustment).
Good luck and enjoy your 914!
Richard