does anyone know were to get male or female terminals like the factory used. they are different than the ones at a FLAPS. is this a euro thing?

just go to your FLAP and buy yht color coded , blue or red or yellow and remove the plastic cover or go to an electronic store like radio shack and they will have them

Some of the connectors are rather specialized like the ones in the alternator harness that have locking barbs on them. I found them in a electronics supply house. The crimping tools for them are more difficult to find. Since I'm in the electronics biz to some degree, it is not much of a problem.