I don't know that there is consensus on the head gasket. I don't remember details from reading those old threads except that at least one knowledgeable person said the VW recommendation to remove them was for a specific application (only bus maybe?) and didn't apply to us. The only other part I remember was that after all the reading, I decided I will be installing them when my heads go back on, but would love to hear opinions as it is a decision that I'll be making soon as well.
Tom Wilson's book has a good description for measuring deck height. It's worth having if you don't already.
There is lots of information about the pros and cons but I think the consensus is not to use the sealing rings. They are prone to blowout failure, I didn't use them on my rebuild. I lapped the cylinders to the heads with valve lapping compound.
Do you have to compensate for removing the head sealing ring with shim rings at the base of the cylinder?
The sealing rings aren't all that thick and I had to add shims to set my C/R anyway. Both Jake & Mark Henry condemn the use of the sealing rings..... that was enough for me.