Electrical problems can be really nerve wrecking and for myself I've found it good to step away when I'm ready to pick up the nearest hammer and start swinging.
. Not sure if you've said or not, but do you have a volt/continuity meter? Also, have you downloaded a schematic of the relay board yet? There's at least three different versions I've found, each in a different format. If you can't find any, I'll be happy to post the ones I found.
From the diagrams, it looks like the power for the fuel pump comes in from the cabin connector on pin 14. That passes through the 25 amp fuse. In order for the fuel pump relay to turn on, it looks like the fuel injection power supply relay must turn on and then it will turn on the fuel pump relay. The ground needed to energize the fuel pump relay appears to come from pin 3 of the fuel injection power connector. When the fuel pump relay is on, it shows +12v sent to pin 13 on the cabin connector. It also sends +12V to the AAR on pin 12 of the engine connector.
All this may sound very confusing.... it does to me when I read it. So, where I'd start, ignoring all this confusion, would be to short 30 to 87 on the relay board where the fuel pump relay plugs and see if there's continuity with a meter between 14 and 13 on the board where the cabin connector plugs in. If good, remove the jumper and make sure there's no continuity. If that checks OK, then at least the output side of the relay on the board is working. If not, look at the fuse and its connection, and after that it's time to really suspect the traces and connections on the board. Hope this helps a little getting started.
Dan