paul... put the tranny in...
at the tranny, it has that little ball pivot thing.
it goes in and out of the trans, and goes forward and back.
put it in third MANUALLY at the trans, by doing this.
with the selector Halfway into the tranny (slides in and out) puts you in the 2-3 gate.
now third is forward and second is backwards. so push the selector toward the front of the car. you have now put your trans in third gear.
now go loosen the splined connection at the front shifter (without taking the trans out of gear)... loosen it, and let the spirngs center it in its gate, then push the selector forward to where third gear would be, tighten it up and you should be close to perfect