Hi/Low relay for headlights., Not working or bad colum switch? Options

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Okay, got my fogs to work. Just needed to rotate the glass/bulb housing about 1mm clockwise (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) 35w bulbs...hmm...not very bright...maybe I'll put 55w in later. Oh, to remove the glass bezel you undo the retaining screw at the base, pry the bottom of the bezel away from the housing, then lift the bottom up and swing away from the top. The top has a catch on the inside that the bezel hooks on to (very much like a stock VW T3 headlight trim ring is attached). I'm also in the process of disconnecting them from the headlights so they operate independantly with the ignition switch ON.

Now, attached is a scan of two relays. The silver one came with the car, has part number 111 941 583A on it, and when installed the low beams are on. When I hook up the new relay (supposed to be a replacement unit) the lights do not come on. With either unit I cannot switch between hi/low beams. You can see the circuit diagram on them and they are different (great). I did try jumpering 56 to 30 and still no success.

Any ideas? Why doesn't the new black unit work? Does it sound like my hi/low column switch is bad (and how hard is it to replace)? I do have several shop manuals to help if I need to replace the column switch but, geez, I really don't want to...