Jake Raby's dad died, Sadness strikes a 914 supporter Options

[plas76targa]

Jake - nice story about your dad. My condolences to you and your family. Your Dad was a great man and will be remembered for his influence on you.

[azbill]

Jake sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through. Remember you will get passed this but you will never forget.

Bill Shaffer

[craig downs]

So sorry to hear about your dad passing, It must really hurt not being able to say good bye to him before he passed. Peace be with you and your family and may God bless you all.

[RiqueMar]

Mr. Jake Raby,

I know you don't know me, but I wish to convey to you my condolences, it is my deepest wish that you find peace through this hardest of times.

Enrique Mar

[ottox914]

Jake, sorry to hear of your loss. I fear my father is not far from yours- the MD's have said for the last several years that they can't operate on an 80 yr old to do any additional bypass work. I think he's up to 7 or 8 so far, and a couple of stints.

I treasure the time we have together, and he often rides with me on my appointments for work- not unlike your dad helping out at air cooled heaven. I do believe our dads were/are happy in our successes, and helping out is just part of them doing their job- making sure we have come out doing the best we can.

[Jake Raby]

My Brother, who I haven't seen in over a decade arrived late last night... Today is the final viewing and etc, so things are about to get to the absolute worst..

When I found my Dad I was in shock, I don't really know how I held together for those first few minutes. I just stepped back and gathered myself and started calling people.. I have endured a lot of scary things in my life from having in air emergencies in Helicopters to being shot at, but this was a completely different level of being scared.. It took me a few minutes to know who to call, but I finally had the thought to call one of our customers who is the Director of the county EMS service. Luckily his office is 1/4 mile from the shop so he was there in two minutes..

The past couple of days have been like the worst dream I have ever had.. The kind words from my friends on forums like this one have been inspirational and have helped me to further understand that me and my Dad and the rest of my family have an extended family that goes much farther than the little town in North Georgia where we live.

It'll be hard to get back to normal again.

[IronHillRestorations]

Time is the only thing that will ease your pain Jake. Time won't make it better, just easier to keep in perspective.

My deepest condolences.

[Ian Stott]

There will be a new normal Jake, and your Dad influenced you in many ways on this, he will always be with you, it just seems really different right now. I am happy to hear your brother is there, it is a good thing. Thoughts are with you, feeling deeply is not a weakness, it is an insight into a persons character.

Ian Stott
Moncton
Canada

[jimtab]

Jake, I'm sorry for your, and your family's loss. I've lost both a dad and stepdad in my life and it isn't ever easy. Sounds like you were lucky and had a long and loving relationship to remember. Hang in there the pain will change to warm memories. Jim

[JazonJJordan]

My hand on your shoulder- my friend; along with dozens of others~
from here to New Zealand.
You will not be alone in these moments either, we stand right-beside you-

My Brother, who I haven't seen in over a decade arrived late last night... Today is the final viewing and etc, so things are about to get to the absolute worst..

When I found my Dad I was in shock, I don't really know how I held together for those first few minutes. I just stepped back and gathered myself and started calling people.. I have endured a lot of scary things in my life from having in air emergencies in Helicopters to being shot at, but this was a completely different level of being scared.. It took me a few minutes to know who to call, but I finally had the thought to call one of our customers who is the Director of the county EMS service. Luckily his office is 1/4 mile from the shop so he was there in two minutes..

The past couple of days have been like the worst dream I have ever had.. The kind words from my friends on forums like this one have been inspirational and have helped me to further understand that me and my Dad and the rest of my family have an extended family that goes much farther than the little town in North Georgia where we live.

It'll be hard to get back to normal again.

[stephenaki]

I've been out of the net and just saw this; my deepest condolences to Jake and his family.

[Bruce Allert]

Jake, so sorry for your loss. I was with my Dad on Saturday cutting his lawn for him because of an illness. He's getting better but at 85 his recovery is slow. I got him outside & he did some weed eating & sweeping & I could tell he felt better because of it. Talking to him about his rogue Navy days perked him up too. I guess what I'm saying is I will miss him also when he's gone but I will, as you have, cherish all moments with him that I have left.

Hang in there Buddy and thanks for all you & your Dad have done for the "Air Cooled World".

....b

[MDG]

Jake, very sorry to hear of your loss. Having just lost my dad last month (on 9/14 oddly enough), I feel for you. The memories, the imparted wisdom and the influences he's left behind are yours to keep. Once the physical absence gets easier to deal with you'll realize he's still right there with you.

m.

[moggy]

So sorry to hear your sad news Jake. Take care of yourself buddy.

Moggy

[charliew]

I'm sorry for your loss Jake and my prayers are with you. Be strong for those left behind. You will be numb for awhile but it will get better. Remember your Dad loved you and wouldn't want you to suffer too much and just try to do the best you can to take care of everything. I was lucky that my mom still was going good and was right in the middle of all the things that needed to be tended to. It's been 11 years since he went to a better place. He was 90. He spent several years in a rest home with dementia or alt. and the last year in a fetal position sleeping but I still remember the hunting and fishing trips we went on and all the other family outings we had. My mom spent a part of every day with my dad for 9 years in the resthome. He was a old athlete so his heart was very strong but his mind went way to soon.

I know it's easy for me to say but down the road you will realize that the way your dad went was one of the better ways to go. It's good you were closeby. I know he suffered over the years but he was still able to keep going and to give you support and advice.

It sounds like he was a very good man who always wanted the best for you and his other loved ones.

Something I do when something gets misplaced or is hard to diagnose is, I think to ask my dad where the item is or what the heck is wrong that this fix isn't easy. It really seems like he helps all the time.

God Speed Harry and hang in there Jake.

Charlie

[Jake Raby]

Thanks again guys..
Today was the Funeral. Tomorrow I'll start to rebuild.

Having this many friends really helps.

[MrKona]

Jake,

Logging in for the first time in awhile, and was sad to see this post. My condolences to you and your family. I wish you strength as you move through this.

- Bryan

[914]

Jake,
I wish I had a father like yours.. Sorry for your loss.
Alan

[flipb]

Jake,

I've barely been a member of the board (and a 914 owner) long enough to graduate from newbie status, but everyone, down to my local Porsche mechanic, can't say enough good things about your shop and your work.

It's clear that somebody instilled in you an incredible work ethic and an honest demeanor, and I presume that your Dad gets a lot of that credit. While I'm lucky to still have my parents, I've been through a loss and my friends and community did more than they will ever know to get me through it.

For one thing, you've inspired me (and probably a lot of other members) to make a few more long-distance phone calls and not take for granted the time that we've got. It's a difficult time for you, but hopefully the support from this community is half as moving to you as your eloquent tribute to your father has been for us.

Celebrate his life and be comforted in the memories that will always be with you.

Philip (Flip) B.

[mikelsr]

Jake,
I'm very sorry to hear about the passing of your father. You and your family are in our thoughts.

Mike