OT: Thanks to everyone who showed concern, R.I.P. Francis V. Henry, my dad Options

[brp914]

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Mark, I am so sorry man. I know exactly what you and your Dad went through. I think I said before that my father passed just last month on August 14th. I was the one who gave him the meds to deaden the pain his last few hours and was there when he took his last breath. It was hard and it still hard to look back or even think about it. He was such a strong man, to see him like that tore me appart.

Gawwd, my dad came out of bypass surgery a couple years ago - could not force myself into that room. Don't know who you are Mark. Somehow people recover and put it behind themselves. I guess its its one of those things that helps you appreciate life.

[skline]

Mark, it is a tragic loss to lose a parent, I lost my Mom in 2001 and my Father August 9th. I know there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better about it. My condolences to you and your family and hopes that with time, the pain will ease. The loss of my Father is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. He was my best friend my whole life. All I can do now is remember all the great times we had together and continue doing things he would be proud of.

[turtleman]

I recently lost my Dad too. I have placed pictures of him and my family in the bathroom and kitchen and frequently take a glance at them. I feel quite lucky to have had such a fine father who has given me much great advice over the years.
I concentrate on those memerable moments we shared to bring that needed smile when I am missing him. I also frequently cherish remembering a few special things he did with me one-on-one.

Once I had been reprimanded for getting in a fight with my older sister. She had instigated the row which got outa hand and I clocked her. I was grounded from a special weekend that the family had planned going away to visit some Salt mines in Bavaria, Germany and skiing (Dad, Army veteran, was stationed in Heidleberg, Germany at the time). Dad was required to stay back for work and could not go on the trip so my mother had insisted I stay back with him as punishment for the blow I sent my sister's way. My father had felt that I was totally wrong doing what I had done but the punishment a little overkill consideing that my sister had initiated the row. Anyway, Dad snuck me off to another ski resort where we skied together for two days, had supper in a restaurant all by ourselves and than rushed back home before the Mother and the others got back. I was sworn never to mention a word to my mother as Dad would have been 'up the creek with no paddle'. I never shared that story with my mother and have always cherished that special weekend with Dad. So you Dad's take note!!! Try to do something special like that with your kids. Those are the things that help make these times easier to cope with.

I wish you the best in being able to recall all similar memories you have had with your Dad. Bless him.

Chip

[Mark Henry]

Thanks everyone.

We plan to have a small service Thursday.

We are planing to bury his ashes under a nice blue spruce...He loved trees and has planted hundreds on his different propeties over the years. We used to kid him about it all the time, calling him the tree man. We think he would have seen it a fitting resting place.

He had a pretty good life, I will remember the good times.